I read quite a few articles on the "World's Smallest Baby", and yes she was very small. Her mother developed Preclampsia and doctors were forced to perform an emergency caesaran section. Now the baby along with her twin sister are doing fine. Wow, what a blessing. Modern medicine is amazing. Simply because if it wasn't for modern medicine, my son probably wouldn't have been here either. Having a child is serious business, so all those mommys out there, take a moment to count your blessings. When I was pregnant with my son, I prayed to GOD every night that he would be healthy. And I was scared of all the things that could go wrong. Today, my son is very healthy, he's a picky eater, but that's another blog.

Christmas is approaching and this year will be the first year I get a Christmas Tree. Yes my son has been deprived for the first four years of his life. But Christmas is a magical and wonderful time. My son now believes in Santa Claus, so now I got to go all out and make sure he keeps believing in Santa. Now, I know a lot of folks don't like the idea of a Jolly fat white man going around giving kids presents, but I'm sorry, I want my son to believe in him. At least as long as possible. I usually don't get sucked up into the commercialism of Christmas, I believe Jesus is the reason for the season. To all you parents, I suggest you pick up the Charlie Brown Christmas special. It's one of the few cartoons that explains Christmas and the true meaning behind it. Plus, it's a wonderful story. I also think Polar Express was a good film as well.

For Christmas, I'm getting my son movies. I'm getting the Sponge Bob Movie and Shark Tale. Yes, I visited the bootleg man, don't hate. My son is 5, he doesn't know the difference. My mom and my sister got him all kinds of things, and who knows what his father's family got him. I usually don't have to spend much at Christmas, I'm blessed.

To everyone out there, make sure you have a blessed holiday and remember that Christmas is about giving, not receiving.

Sometimes you can care too much for a person. You can fall in love with a shadow. A shadow of a relationship. A mirage or a fantasy. But realistically speaking, you are bound to not interfere with their lives. Simply because you care too much to act on your own emotions. I can speak all day on what's good for you, but until you realize it, it's like talking to a brick wall. I can tell you until the end of time that I can make you happy, but if you don't want me to, it's pointless. And to be frank, a waste of my time. See I know I'm a good woman, and I know that the right man is out there for me. And when he comes along, then that's the person I will be with. All these other men out here are really just wasting my time. Because they are preventing me from being with the man that I really am meant to be with.

A real relationship contains many aspects. It's not just about love. It's about, love, respect, consideration, sacrifice, loyalty, dedication. It's about a genuine commitment to that person. And until you have all those circumstances, in my opinion, you don't have a real relationshsip. I have been friends with people, and it's grown to more and I've been strictly platonic with people too, and what I realize about most men, is that they fall in love with the wrong people. They care too much about sexual attraction and looks instead of what's good for them. Women fall in love with men based on how they treat them, not how they look and what they wear. That's why you got folks like your grandparents that have been married for 25 plus years. They fell in love with a total package. People get older, looks can fade, folks gain weight, but if you cannot rely on the person you are with to have your back, then in all honesty you have nothing. Stop looking to find the woman of your life, because most likely, she's already there. Stop thinking of a woman as an accessory and start looking at her as a necessity. A good woman is like a good car. A good car will get you there when you need it, always start for you, always be there when you need it to be. You don't trade it in cause it's not perfect. You keep it. But when that car starts acting up and becomes more trouble then what it's worth, then sometimes you gotta trade it in. It no longer suits your needs. And to be honest, some of these women out here, need to be traded in. Because not every pretty car is a good car, and not every pretty woman is a good woman.

Open your eyes people and see people for what they really are.